Hi, I'm Silvy

I'm a relationship coach who guides others towards
self-connection + fulfilling relationships.

I use attachment theory wisdom, boundaries guidance, grounded practical tools, and a compassionate humanistic approach to support people to grow their self-awareness and their relationship skills.

My soul mission is to support others in expanding their self-knowing and self-connection, and to guide them with the skills to create fulfilling relationships. 

“Becoming intimately familiar with the core vulnerabilities within us all can be such a profound gift.”

Some vulnerabilities and fears are existential and innately human. There are some experiences that are not meant to be solved or overcome. They are meant to be held, and witnessed, and embraced.  

We can tend to our healing and be in relationships with others simultaneously. They are not necessarily mutually exclusive. Sometimes they are, but sometimes they are not. 

As a relationship coach, I guide others to get to know themselves more intimately in a collaborative way. I teach people how to communicate with self-responsibility, vulnerability, and boundaries. 

Core principles infused in my work: 

  • Reciprocity
  • Fairness
  • Vulnerability
  • Self-Responsibility
  • Boundaries

Approaches used in my work: 

  • Compassionate witnessing
  • Offering insights and reflections based on Attachment Theory and family of origin
  • Validation of cultural and systemic oppression
  • Writing to deepen self-awareness
  • Role play dynamics to deepen understanding of concepts
  • Narrative work to integrate one’s story and recreate a new narrative 

I offer one on one coaching packages and online programs that teach the very things that have worked for me and hundreds of my clients. 

Professional Training & Background:

Education:

✦ Master’s Degree, Psychology, Marriage & Family Therapy, Phillips Graduate Institute Chatsworth

✦ Bachelor’s Degree, Sociology, University of California Santa Barbara

✦ Leadership Coaching (2011-2012)

✦ Extensive Training in Emotional, Acting, & Improvisation Skills (2006-2012)

Professional Experience:

✦ Professional Relationship Coach (2012-Present)

✦ Ongoing Personal Therapy (2011-2021)

✦ Associate Marriage & Family Therapist AMFT 75734, CalFam Counseling Center, Supervised by Randall Christopher, MFT 37646 (2019-2021)

✦ Associate Marriage & Family Therapist AMFT 75734, Private Practice, Supervised by Jodi Rowe, LCSW LCS14503 (2013-2019)

✦ Child & Family Specialist Associate Therapist, Pacific Clinics, Pasadena California (2014-2015)

✦ For the Future Group Home, Simi Valley, California (2013-2014)

✦ School-Based MFT Trainee, Partnerships for Uplifting Communities (2012-2013)

✦ Katt Shea Children’s Acting, Santa Clarita, California

About Me:

Hi, I'm Silvy.
I'm a Relationship Coach and Writer

I’m also a longtime creative

a true introvert

a melancholy music-lover

a rain-worshiper

manifesting generator

a mostly secure (now) but also anxiously-attached at times, INFJ, HSP.

 

I have been obsessed with creating fulfilling relationships – both romantic and friendship – for as long as I can remember. I was the person all my friends came to for relationship advice since I was a young girl. I have endless memories of listening to painful stories shared with me, giving advice, validating complex human experiences.

I remember being on a girl scouts camping trip during middle school, and having all my fellow peers circled for a meditation exercise I wanted to facilitate. I mean, I had no idea what meditation actually was at that time, but what I want you to know about that, was how deep my love of helping people was, even back then.

Part of it probably was because I also needed guidance. And helping others was my way of doing what I could. I have struggled with anxiety – both personal and relational – for much of my life. Most of my healing has happened relationally – which is why I am so committed to offering relational support back to others.

I have since been in my own coaching and therapy on and off for almost 14 years. I believe receiving your own support is necessary in being a skillful facilitator and guide to others. I received my Masters in Psychology in Marriage and Family Therapy in X year.  and have been working with clients as a coach for the last 13 years. I also spent 8 years working as an associate psychotherapist working with incredible supervisors in the therapy field. I was most drawn to work with those who were willing to show their human side, their vulnerability. That has created connection and the most change for me

We hear this saying in various forms everywhere: “We hurt in relationships, and we heal in them too.” And I believe that is very true. Relationships offer us a space to feel seen, a place to co-regulate emotionally with someone, a place to express our needs, and our boundaries, and our fears, and our longings and be received with tenderness and care, a place to better develop our relationship skillset, a place to discover who we really are and want to be.

That is what I am committed to offering you here. A place to discover who you are through the lens of the relationships that exist in your life

 

People seek to work with me when:

  • They’ve done a lot of therapy and are ready for more practical support 
  • They’re struggling to express their boundaries and want an ally on their side
  • They are dating and want to expand and strengthen their dating skills
  • They want to create more reciprocity in their relationships
  • They are ending a relationship and want grounded and compassionate support
  • They want Attachment support to better understand and relate to their partner or friend

I hope you feel a sense of empowerment, validation, ease, and compassion towards yourself and your loved ones as you make your way through my website. 

I offer courses, workbooks, and 1 on 1 coaching support to support you to expand your personal and relational world.